Did you know there are people out there who eat processed food, gluten, chocolate & beer & are still living a life that is fulfilling to them?
Sometimes in this industry, & I am as guilty as the next person, we tend to judge others according to our supposed knowledge about a given topic. We see the overweight person eating some takeaway & immediately we make a judgement. We see someone smoking a cigarette & we judge. We see someone in the gym & we make assumptions. This isn’t an evil thing; as human beings we’re wired to make biological judgements every moment of the day – we scan the human beings around us to establish our own position in society & where we fit in the ‘pack’ & we’re constantly scanning the opposite sex for reproductive potential (it’s okay) & generally speaking the more healthy & vibrant someone looks the more positive our feelings in this regard are.
But as human beings living in the modern age, in the western world, objective judgement in a biological sense begins to lend itself to subjective judgement which can often quickly cascade to criticism & ill-feelings. You see as much as we require these judgement processes in the human experience, there must also come a point where we accept those around us for who they are & who they choose to be.
I have friends who are very much not into health & wellness. There were times throughout my exploration into the topic where I began taking my knowledge & using it as a base reason to morally assert myself as the ‘higher being’ above my friends. Well of course, I knew that green juices would alkalise me & build my blood & that meant I would live forever but my poor friends, oh my friends, look at them with their pasties & chips, they’ll be lucky to live until they’re 60.
What I had failed to do was accept my friends for who they are & the decisions they chose to make whether or not I agreed with them.
This is there key concept here & I can still remember one of my aha moments over the last year leading up to this very article, where Paul Chek delivered this to a classroom I was in. There is no right or wrong in any single part of the universe. The universe, God, the Tao, Nature, it never says ‘no’ to anything does it? It always says yes. The only true law is that for every action there is a reaction & you have to deal with that. Eat a pie – get digestive pain for instance. Buy a gun & take lives – go to jail. Steal from Ben – lose your own stuff.
Like a seed which had been planted in originally loose, unhealthy soil, this wonderful, liberating idea that I didn’t have to live my life focused on what everyone else was doing began to sprout into a fully fledged flower of fun. You see when you stop looking outside of yourself, making judgements to achieve that self-validation (which is completely natural!), you only have one place to look; within. And that is when the work can be done.
No matter who we are, where we stand in life, the state of our finances, the state of our happiness, there are always things we can work on & help flourish in our lives. The endless pursuit of achieving ‘perfection’ or ‘that end goal’ is no doubt the sole reason for being here in the first place. As Professor Coreman puts it in Hector’s Search For Happiness;
“We should concern ourselves not so much with the pursuit of happiness, but more with the happiness of pursuit.”
It is so easy for us to be focused on the destination when we are looking outside of ourselves, not accepting, judging, critiquing, suggesting how things could be better, but when we begin to accept & trust the enjoyment of the journey itself begins to prosper.
By no means is this an argument to never take action, to not stand up for your beliefs or to refrain from seeking greater & better ways to do things – but rather it is an argument for an alteration in mindset from one of “this should change” to one of “what if this changed?” & to carry a stoic philosophy regarding the outcome.
Stop. Have fun. Enjoy what’s around you.
One of the greatest moments in my life is right now. It always will be. Because it’s all we’ve got. As the droll Eckhart Tolle puts it; anything that happened in the past, or is going to happen in the future still occured/s in the now. Accepting, I think, is one of the fastest ways to get here.